Student Connect

As someone who works closely with men and families to strengthen the home and community, I often encounter individuals who either identify as believers but lack a real relationship with God (Yahuah) or who have walked away from the faith altogether due to trauma, disappointment, or confusion.

In my work, I’ve found that the most effective approach is relational authenticity. Before I ever preach a sermon or quote a scripture, I make it a point to live the Word and meet people where they are, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. Through our men’s gatherings, fatherhood mentorship circles, and community wellness programs, we create safe spaces where vulnerability is welcomed and judgment is absent. Once trust is built, hearts begin to open.

One of our most impactful tools has been mental health workshops with a Kingdom lens. These sessions address issues like anger, father wounds, depression, and emotional abandonment; but we tie them back to identity, purpose, and the redemptive power of Choice ist (Yahusha). Many men have returned to faith because they first felt seen and valued in their struggle.

That said, approaches that have fallen short include quick fixes, such as handing someone a tract or inviting them to a service without relationship. While well-intentioned, these methods often feel transactional and don’t speak to the real pain or questions people are carrying.

False believers especially require discipleship, not just evangelism. We need to walk with them, challenge them lovingly, and lead by example. When they see a man living with integrity, humility, and boldness in the faith, it stirs something in them. That’s been the most consistent fruit, modeling what wholeness looks like.

My prayer is that we all continue to be led by the Holy Spirit (Ruach Ha’Qodesh) in how we reach others—not with gimmicks, but with grace, truth, and love in action.